Tuesday, October 31, 2006

Happy Halloween!

Put down the mini Kitkat bar and nobody gets hurt.

Monday, October 30, 2006


MiniWarrior snuggled into my bed the other night and promptly hogged 3/4'ths of my pillow.
When I complained and told him to go sleep on the pillow on his side of the bed he said...

But Mommmm I can't! I have a neck infection.
I can only sleep on your pillow!

Neck infection.
I sniff the scent of a future politician here cuz' that boy can shovel bull**** with the best of them!

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

The Weight Of Miraculous Debt

41 and some odd months ago, there was a discussion between medical staff on whether or not I should live.
Apparently I was stuck inside my mother and her life was at risk.
She intervened and demanded that I be saved. A pair of prying forceps later and I was dragged out to breath my first breath in this world.

A few years later I was licking an ice cream and riding my bike along Main street. My wheel hit the curb and I was thrown into the street. In the few stunned seconds as I lay there I watched the wheel of a car slide towards my face and abruptly stop as it touched the tip of my nose.
An old lady staggered from inside the car and screamed over and over how "She shouldn't be driving. She had just come back from a Doctor's visit and he had said her reflexes were so impaired she must give up driving." Strangers plucked me from the street and brushed me off while the old lady continued her rant.
After concluding that I was unhurt, the crowd dispersed and I clambered back onto my bike and shakily headed home.

Fast forward to my 20th year. Swimming in the Ocean in St. Croix with a friend. We scoured the ocean floor for Conch shells. I swam out to a grassy line in the sand thinking this would be a good hiding place for shells. I tried to swim past the line in the sand to search the sea grass. Try as I might, I could not break past the line of grass in the sand to move further out. It was like hitting a glass wall. I turned my head to see my friends eyes showing wide and scared through her goggles as she watched me swim frantically in place. She motioned for us to swim back to shore.
As we lay gasping on the beach she told me how she watched me swim furiously but how my body didn't move one inch forward. I panted and told her that it had felt like I was hitting against a glass wall. We lay there for awhile and pondered this puzzling phenomenon then headed back to the house of the people we were staying with.
Later that night over spaghetti, I told my tale of the line in the sand and watched Ivan's (the Man of the house) face grow pale.
He explained to me of the many natives that had died swimming innocently past that line in the sand. Apparently, this was the division of passive ocean and the beginning of a deadly riptide. If I had crossed that line, I would have been dead.

A few years later, back in my home town, I was driving my car down a hill in the moody light of dusk. I accelerated as at the end of the hill the light was green. Just as my car was crossing into the intersection a car came barrelling from my left, blowing through his red light. There was no time for evasive maneuvering, I could see the shadowed shape of the driver as he plunged towards me. I closed my eyes and braced for impact.
I opened them a few seconds later to see the car now miraculously on the other side of the intersection continuing on in his wild ride.

To this day I cannot explain how he missed me. There was no screech of tires. There was no sound. He was moving too quickly to have swerved around me. He was heading directly for my drivers side door.

It's a mystery. But the real mystery to me is the question of "Why" that has followed all the near misses in my life. These few that I've listed are the bigger, obvious misses of Deaths knock on my door. There are many other simpler times that can be easily explained with a shrug of the shoulder and the wink of "Phew! I was sure lucky!"

I haven't done any remarkable action that would explain the reason for my being saved. If there is indeed a reason and not just blind luck. If I were to fade away there wouldn't be great mourning and an obvious rift in the Universe.

I've been thinking of late, perhaps I should change that. It seems ungrateful of me to continue on without paying back somehow the gift of life that's been handed back to me so many miraculous times.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

The Chatter Of Solitude

It was a beautiful Fall evening when I pulled up to my house.
Guido, the cat, greeted me at the door with a hungry meow.

Tossing my work bag down, I gave him a friendly scritch then lumbered to the kitchen to fill his bowl with his nightly scoop of soft food. He hunkered down over his dinner with a pleased purr. The house was quiet with the empty feel it gets when it's just Guido and I and MiniWarrior is at his Dad's house. The air had a slight Northwest damp feel to it. I shivered lightly in the shadows of the kitchen then wandered into the living room to set the trappings for a fire in the fireplace.

A couple of trips back and forth to the garage wood bin later, I crouched by the fireplace and watched the flames of the new fire begin to envelop the logs. The crackling sounds filled the emptiness of the house and Guido butted up against me in approval. Feline belly full, he stretched and lay down on the fireplace rug beside me.

I stood after a bit and stared out the tall living room window watching the Swan and his faithful duck companion swim along the banks of my backyard creek; the Swans long white neck stretching out from time to time to nibble at the young ferns that grow along the creek bed.

The blue of the sky was turning a sleepy evening grey. The hot tub beckoned me. I nodded to myself, checked the stability of the crackling fire, and headed out for an evening soak.

Lifting the cover off, the heat from the hot tub fought with the crisp fall air and created an other worldly steam battle. I stepped into the cloud and slid into the hot bubbling water with a contented sigh.

I let my mind float free for awhile. Letting the days build up of tiny stresses drift away. I smiled to myself. This was a nice time in my life. The brief period of calm that restores your insides and prepares you for future events. I felt a trickle of worry slide down my mental spine at the thought of future events to come. The unknown hovered around inside me like the cloud that followed the Pigpen character from Charley Brown.

"This happiness comes with a future cost." My battered soul whispered to me. I closed my eyes and tried to shake the thought away.

"Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow." I muttered back at the pessimistic finger shaking inside me.

The wounds from this past year were still too fresh to quell the fear snaking inside me. I peeled myself from the warmth of the hot tub and headed back inside to drown the voices warring inside me with the crackling sound of the fire.

Monday, October 23, 2006

Halloween Goodness

I went to a rockin' Halloween party Saturday night. ( I dressed up as Wednesday Adams)
Good Food.
Good Friends.
Good Times!

I don't think I'll ever outgrow the fun of Halloween.
There's just something magical about going on an excursion of pumpkin picking and Halloween Costumes.
MiniWarrior is so excited. It was a little too early to carve our pumpkins but he just couldn't wait. So, two orange spooky faced pumpkins sit out on our front porch. Every day their carefully carved faces droop a little more as the pumpkins shrivel and begin the glorious rotting phase.

Nothing says Halloween like moldy pumpkins oozing their death juices onto the cement of one's porch stairs.

Good times. Good times.

**Click here http://www.tagyerit.com/pumpkin/Large.htm to see some AWESOME pumpkin carving pics!!**

Saturday, October 21, 2006


I picked MiniWarrior up early from school yesterday for a Doctor appointment.
While shuffling my truck through the afternoon traffic gusts of Fall wind blew speratic rain drops onto the windshield.
MiniWarrior piped up from the backseat.

Yes, Son?
I'm sorry I got a little dirty today at Recess.
That's OK. I don't care if you get dirty playing.
Well...I wasn't playing...
You weren't?
I was laying in the grass trying to get a Cloud Tan.

Friday, October 20, 2006


For those of you whom have faithfully followed me from my old blog "katscratchings" at the dreaded MSN Windows LIVE (grind grind grind of teeth)

Thank you and Welcome!

Happy New Year!

Worldwide, people celebrate January 1st as the beginning of a New Year.

For me, the New Year begins when Fall arrives.

I love Fall. The time when Earth shakes itself from a lazy Summers nap and fills the air with crackling energy.

Fall, in all it's glorious colors and blustery winds, fills me with it's promises of things to come.

Shiny faced kids in fresh haircuts and crisp new clothes stepping onto polished yellow school bus's to begin a new school year.

Children bedecked in goulish Halloween outfits, running wild with sugar crazed eyes. The aroma of Thanksgiving turkey and pumpkin pie. The tinkling of Christmas bells whispering of festivities to come.

It is in these three months of Fall that I feel the most impact of the twelve months that make up a year.

I wish for you all, a wonderful New Year filled with the goodness of family, the sounds of children laughing, the gentle purr of a cat dozing in front of a crackling fire, the crunch of fallen leaves beneath the paws of a tail wagging dog, the warmth of a loved ones hand in yours as you walk through the dancing winds of Fall.

A Domino In Motion

A single act of compassion is like tipping the first Domino in the intricately constructed maze of life.
The Amish community’s compassionate response to the murderer's family set the Domino play in motion with a CLICK that has resounded around the world. Strangers have been touched and echoed the compassionate act with gifts amounting to over 700,000 dollars.
Today I read the murderer's wife's response to the Amish acts of compassion:
"The wife of a gunman who killed five girls and injured five others at an Amish school released a statement thanking the Amish and others in the Lancaster County community for their "forgiveness, grace and mercy."...
Marie Roberts says she and her three young children have been overwhelmed by the community support since the Oct. 2 shootings.
"Your love for our family has helped to provide the healing we so desperately need," she wrote. "Gifts you've given have touched our hearts in a way no words can describe. ... Your compassion has reached beyond our family, beyond our community, and is changing our world, and for this we sincerely thank you."
In my previous blog "Grace In The Face Of Evil" I wrote of how this event, and the Amish response to it, touched my life.
I imagine holding a Domino piece in the pocket of my soul. Somewhere, sometime, I will be presented with the choice of tipping that piece and putting it into play in the compassionate maze the Amish have put in motion.
When I close my eyes I imagine setting my piece into play and watching it softly tip against the next Domino with a "CLICK".
I imagine millions of Domino pieces toppling and snaking around in an intricate maze across the world.
Swirling, tipping, falling...moving.
Can you hear it?

Grace In The Face Of Evil

Reading about the Grandfather standing by the dead body of his grandchild, murdered in cold blood in her schoolhouse, I found myself deeply moved.
He wasn't raging against the awful unfairness of the murder of his granddaughter. He wasn't spewing hate and raising his fist to the heavens in anguish demanding to know, "Why?" He was admonishing his community to embrace the wife and children of the man who held a gun to little girl's heads and executed them.
He stood quietly and solemnly said, "This family has lost their husband and father. Show them compassion."
The Amish community embraced his words and while busy laying their children in newly dug graves, they took time to walk over and bring food and supplies and comfort to the murderers’ family.
While medical bills were still piling up from their children who were struggling to survive from bullet wounds, the Amish community scraped together money to start a fund to help the family of the man who brutalized their children.
This, people, is the very definition of grace. Of compassion. Of forgiveness. Of human goodness.
And I am touched. Deeply.
This past year has been filled with human ugliness that has greatly affected MiniWarrior and I. Ugliness so vile to me that I have been struggling with anger and depression trying to come to grips with it all in my mind. I hadn't been able to get a grasp on it to start really healing until I read about the Amish response to their tragedy.
These people lost their children. Lost them through a murderous act. They had to bury their children while rumors of intended sexual abuse of their children whispered around them. Two most heinous acts that parents world over fear happening to their children. A fear so ingrained, so deep that it wakes us from sleep and has us standing over our sleeping children whispering to the gods to keep them safe.
Seeing their act of incredible Grace in the face of the darkest Evil...I felt something loosen inside me. I felt a slight shift where anger had been digging in its roots. A loosening. A soft warmth trickling into a hollow place.
Their strength has encouraged me. Healed me in a way I didn't know how to.
Grace. The proverbial middle finger in the face of evil.
You can touch me...but you cannot break me.
This people, is true power.

A Whisper From Inside A Hero's Cell

Listening to my Mother's stories brought back to me a memory of a time in High School. I had been given the assignment of writing a report from a significant event in History.
I discussed the assignment with my Mom and she said she knew just the report to give. She disappeared then came back to the living room clutching a well worn sheet of paper. She explained to me that this was a letter written to her older sister from her Fiancé who had been arrested by the Germans and was sitting in a cell, condemned to die.
My Mother's family had hidden Jews in their house. They had been hiding a husband and wife and their little 6 year old daughter for a couple of days. The Germans raided the house. They found the man and lady but did not find the child. They dragged the couple out of the house and arrested my Grandfather, my Uncle Piet and my Aunt Marieke's Fiancé.
My Mother's family searched the house for 2 days for the little girl. They eventually found her. She was curled into a little ball in a crawl space under a cupboard that was the size of a bread box. She was hungry, thirsty and terrified, but alive.
My Grandfather owned a Potato Factory Business that the Germans took over and kept going to help feed the German Army. This saved my Grandfather and Uncle as they were needed to keep the business running so the Germans released them from Jail.
My Aunt Marieke's Fiancé was not so fortunate.
The night before he was to be shot to death, he sat on the floor of his cell and wrote a final letter to his loved ones from a sheet tore out of the back of his Bible.
In it he stated that he was not sorry for hiding Jews. That he despised the Germans for their cruelty to these innocent people. He admonished those still fighting the fight against the Germans to keep strong; to keep fighting. That the War would end someday and once again the Jewish people would live in peace to begin their lives again.
When it came time in class for me to give my report, I brought along my Mom to interpret the letter that this man had written.
In her soft Dutch accented voice she read the letter while I translated it in English for the class.
"To my Mother I leave my Bible. To my Father I leave my bookmark. To my loving Fiancé I leave my comb...Do not cry for me. I would not change what I have done..."
When the early morning sun speared through the bars of his cell, the soldiers came in and walked him to the wall outside the prison and shot him to death.
They handed the letter and Bible to his Fiancée and let his family come take his body for burial.
When my Mom and I finished reading the letter there was not a dry eye in the classroom.
The last words of a simple man, who in the end could only leave his family with the most basic of his possessions, had left a mark on this world worth more then the richest of combined treasure.
I continue to honor him this day by passing on his story to you.
His name was Folkert. He was 21 years old.

Ghost Stories

My (adopted) Mom has been staying with me these past couple of weeks.
She turns 80 at the end of this week.
I've spent a lot of time listening to her stories of growing up. 80 years of life experiences.

She was 14 when World War ll happened and Germany occupied Holland, the country of her birth. I grew up listening to her stories of the atrocities of war she witnessed but somehow, hearing the stories again with an adult ear, the impact of them is different.

She told me of a tragic event she witnessed one day when she was riding her bike to town. A group of German soldiers forced her to stop and join a crowd that had been forced into a circle. Inside the circle was a beautiful young woman with long dark hair who was on her knees beside a young dark haired man. The Soldiers surrounding them grabbed their hair and forced their heads back. Up top a three story row home a window opened. A young German soldier (whom my mom described as being no older then 18-19 yrs old) stuck his arm out the window. In his hand was a dark haired baby (around 1 1/2 yrs of age).

The couple kneeling on the ground began to cry, pleading. The soldiers ignored their pleas and laughed as the young soldier threw the baby to the ground.

My Mom and I sat quietly after she told me that story. I tried to wrap my mind around the reasoning for such cruelty. I tried to imagine how someone could become that twisted that they could laugh while ending an innocents life as their parents watched.

Even though I have witnessed the darker side of humanity in my 41 years of life, I have no understanding of such depravity.

Not all the stories were as terrible as the death of that child. She told me of heroic deeds performed by simple people who's ties to the people they saved were nothing but the shared value of a life.

We in America have seen such acts in the terrible day of 9/11. Ordinary people reaching out and helping strangers through a dark time caused by depraved men.

I have no answers. I find myself only capable of being a spectator during this event in my lifetime as my Mother was so many years ago in the tiny country of Holland.

Someday I'll pass my stories on to my son. And he will in turn have stories to pass on to his children.

It is the Ying and Yang of what makes up this crazy thing we call, Life.

Continuation of Dreams

It's been asked of me to continue on with the story of what happened after I found and met my Birth Mother.
The biggest question seems to be, "Did it turn out, well?"

Breath deeply the sigh of relief. It's been 14 years since I first hugged my Birth Mother. 14 years where whenever I receive an email, chat with her online, hear her voice over my telephone or watch the way she moves when she speaks to me face to face, my heart does that strange little twist of happiness. You know the one where you peek in and look upon your child sleeping at night? It's still so magical to me. I love her dearly.

When we first met she gave to me a picture she had carried of my Birth Father and told me his name. She thought she heard that his family had moved back to Oklahoma but she knew no other details.

I looked up directory assistance in Oklahoma for his last name. There were two listed. One of the numbers listed was the same name as the boss I was currently working for. My friend and I laughed at that and decided to call this number. I had my friend do it as I was too chicken. It was terrifying to me to think of suddenly talking to my Birth Father.

She laughingly dialed the number and when the woman came on the line, my friend asked to speak to, Nathan. My Birth Fathers name. I watched her face go pale as she shoved the phone at me. "It's HIM!" She squeaked and I immediately began to hyperventilate. I held the receiver out to her shaking and panting and chanting over and over to her to "please PLEASE talk to him for me as I was too freaked out!"

She saw the panic on my face and took the receiver. I slumped to the floor as she talked to him. I heard her ask him if he knew my Birth Mother. My head was making a loud buzzing noise and my heart felt like it was going to pound right out of my chest. Yes. He knew her.

She talked for a tiny bit then gently handed the phone to me whispering that Nathan was asking to speak to me. I got on the phone and was greeted by a smokey southern influenced voice. He told me how amazed he was as he had just been talking to his wife about me. How he wondered what had become of me, if I was OK. If I was healthy, happy. I wanted to ask him a million different things but I couldn't make my mouth work correctly. He was a very warm and sweet man. So different then I had ever imagined.

I met his oldest sister and her family on Thanksgiving that year. She was a very classy, sweet lady. Her family took me in and treated me warmly. She gave me an album of my Birth Father growing up. I so treasure that. She still writes me Christmas cards every year and catches me up with annual family things.

My Grandmother and Aunt flew out to see me shortly after Thanksgiving. My Aunt poked me and laughingly remarked how I'm built "just like their side of the family." My Grandmother was quiet but very sweet. She kept patting me in the way Grandmothers do.

My Birth Father wrote often how he was going to fly out and meet me. He never did. I suspect his wife had some influence there. It was his second wife and he was raising her kids. I think I caused some intimidation feelings there. She wrote me once politely but craftily asking me to back off from him. I did so immediately. It was never in my heart to interfere with my Birth Families life. I always went into my search with the defining lines of "no interference, no disruption." His letters to me slowly trickled to a stop.

Would I like to meet my Birth Father some day? Yes. It's not mandatory, but yes. It would be nice to once look into the eyes of the person I carry my genetic coding from. To look into those eyes and capture the essence of the man who helped create me.

Aafrica wrote a comment to me about growing up in China and one day coming to America and eating McDonald’s morning, noon and night. She wrote of her realizing her dream had happened when she was in graduate school (I assume munching the dream burger) It was what she wrote next that got me thinking. She wrote, "Then I needed a new dream."

She pinpointed what I have been feeling these past few weeks. So much of my life was dedicated to the dream of finding my Birth Mother. Now that I have...I've been wandering through life without any real dreams.

I have two. Two dreams that I hold inside myself. I guess I've just been putting them on hold. I guess I never realized that I could take them out and pursue them now that my main dream has been achieved.

I won't tell you what they are. I never spoke to anyone of my dream to find my Birth Mother. I always felt speaking of the dream made you lose a piece of its energy, its magic.

Wish me well, people. I am moving forth to conquering the next dream on my list.

Beauty Through The Eyes Of The Mini Jedi

**Playing light saber attacks with my 8yr old mini Jedi**

MiniJedi: *scoooosh scooosh* You cannot defeat me! *errrrrr errrrrr* *scooosh scooosh*

MomJedi: *KKKKshhhh KKKshhhh* I've got you now, my minijedi! *KKKshhhh KKKshhhh*

MiniJedi: (holding out hand in outward thrust motion) Feeeeeel my power! Muahahahahahaaaa!!

****phone ringing in background****

MomJedi: Hold on, miniJedi. I'll be right back.

MiniJedi: No!! You cannot escape me! WAIT!! (running after MomJedi) WAIT!!! I haven't cut off your head yet!

***miniJedi light saber hacking motions at MomJedi's neck***

MomJedi: (falls to the ground with a moan) Ohhhhh you got meeeeee! (MomJedi lays on the floor making the death face with tongue hanging out to the side)

MiniJedi: (looking down at defeated MomJedi) *SIGH* Yer so pretty, Mom. Yer the prettiest Mom ever!

MomJedi: (pries open one eyeball and grins around hanging tongue) Thanks, minijedi! You're the handsomest Jedi, too!

MiniJedi: (nods with little chest poking out with pride) Yes. We're the prettiest!

MomJedi: Indeed my young jedi, indeed.


There has been some interesting comments regarding my last blog "Changes". Should dreams remain just "dreams?" Are they landmarks that we nod at as we pass them by on our life's journey?

I believe in dreams. I believe in their power to change your life if you pursue them.

The first 26 years of my life I spent dreaming of one day finding and meeting my Birth Mother. Legal blocks, personal information blocks, family blocks--all said my dream was impossible.

Every book I read on the subject warned me against my dream. They warned of rejection. They warned of the impossible odds that lay before me.

The only personal information I had was the name of my birth town and the state. Armed with that I took a week off of work and drove the hundreds of miles to my birthplace. With driving time included, I had three days to collect as much data as I could once I arrived at my birth place.

Driving on the Freeway approaching my birthtown's city limits I felt electricity skitter through me. The first check mark on my list to acheiving my dream.

I pulled into a Mini Mart and purchased a map of the town. I smiled as I sat in my car opening the map. My first physical piece of information. It was small, but it was another check mark on the list.

I located the hospital that was listed on my "changed" birth certificate. I got out and took pictures of this place. This place where I last touched my Birth Mother as they pulled me from where I lived inside her.

I checked myself into a Hotel then drove to the local library. I spent the next two days searching through Fiche film for a legal adoption notice. My hands shook as I leafed through the images of the old papers. I imagined my Birth Mother reading these newspapers as she carried me. It made me smile even when my newspaper search ended with no sign of an adoption notice.

I drove over to the Welfare office. I walked past the security guard and rode up a private elevator to the Child Welfare office. I spoke with the receptionist who's desk resided behind bullet proof glass. I told her of my desire to find my birth mother. She sent a social worker out to meet with me.

He and I sat in a room and I spilled out my request to find my Birth Mother. He was bound by the laws of non-information. It didn't deter me. I talked, he listened, it was another check mark on my list.

I drove home the next day. The only information I had was the map of my birth town and the pictures I had taken of the hospital. But I had more. Much more. I had the dream that lay firmly planted in that secret place we store inside ourselves.

Back at home, one month later, I popped home for a quick bite of lunch before I had to return back to work. A large manila envelope was sticking out of my mailbox. My hands shook as I pulled it from the box. My body was humming with electricity.

I walked into my house then sat and breathed for a few minutes to calm myself before opening the envelope. I saw everything on that 8 1/2 x 11 typed letter in a blink. The words "Your Birth Mother walked into my office today" pounded over and over in my head.

I had done it. I had found my Birth Mother.

The feelings I had watching her walk up the airport ramp towards me, the feel of her as I hugged her to me, was indescribable.

Should dreams just remain "dreams?" Should they just be regarded as landmarks we nod at as move past them on our life's journey?

For me, the answer is a resounding no. There is nothing more powerful then the magic of dreams. Believe in them people. Believe and pursue them, passionately.


Change. We love it. We hate it. We crave it. We fear it. It's ever persistent in its onward movement. We can either roll with it or get wedged in a crack as it pounds over the top of us.

I had a chance encounter with a blast from my past last night while digging through an old briefcase of mine. I've had the thing for years. I use it to store wrapping paper, cards, glue, tape, scissors...anything I would need to use that involves gift giving.

Rooting through it I came across some zany cartoons that my best friend (back then) and I had drawn back and forth to each other. I sat on the edge of my bed and laughed leafing through the pages of our drawings. The year was 1993. I was 27 years old. It seems a life time ago.

Searching through a folder of the briefcase I found an old journal of mine entitled "Fall of 1993". It was a veritable time capsule. I lay back on my bed and read the words of my 27 year old self.

I discovered two things.

1. I've changed so much from that young 27 year old person.

2. I haven't changed at all.

It's a conflicting discovery, to be sure.

I still have the same dreams. Only 13 years later it seems a bit sad that not one of them has come true. I do, however, see progress during those years. Maybe that's what I need to focus on instead of the lack of end result. I do know it has set inside me a new resolve.

13 years from now when I happen across another journal from my 40th year of life I do not wish to read that not one dream of mine is still unfulfilled. I could not and will not tolerate that.


This Is Why We Don't Eat Our Young

Having spent Wednesday, Thursday and Friday crashed on my sofa trying to rid my body of post surgery pangs and the flu scourge...I decided to take MiniWarrior out Saturday Morning and let him run around at his school playground for a bit.

We stopped at Burger King for lunch. They have the new Star War toys in the kids meals. MiniWarrior had seen the commercial for Burger King toys and had assured me that the world would certainly end if he didn't get his hands on one.

30 minutes, two cheeseburgers, onion rings, fries some orange soda a Burger King Crown and a Anikan Skywalker toy later, we headed out to the school playground.

MiniWarrior peppered me with questions on the drive to the playground. It was hard conversing with him as my throat was sore and the sounds coming out of my mouth resembled more of a hiss then actual words...but that didn't seem to deter MiniWarrior.

I got the usual:

Look at the dark clouds, do you think its going to thunder?
I wish it would thunder, do you like thunder?
Did you have thunder when you were a kid?
How loud was the thunder?
I wish it would thunder and lightening
I love lightening.
Do you like lightening?
How much do you like lightning?
Do you like thunder or lightening more?
How come you like lightening?
What is lightening?
I wish there was a tornado.
How far is a tornado?
Can we drive to a tornado?
How many miles is a tornado?
Like 30 billion 200 zillion miles?

My head throbbed and I hissed at MiniWarrior to STOP with the questions because my throat hurt trying to answer them all. He sat back in his seat with a little sulk, mad at me for ending his favorite game of 3 billion questions.
Silence reigned for all of 20 seconds while he sulked and stared out the car window.

Yesss, Son.
I have one more question.
Can I ask one more question?
*sigh* OK . One more.
How much do Jedi's weigh?


We (finally) arrived at his school. MiniWarrior sprung out of the car running for the playground equipment. I trailed behind him and plunked down wearily on a metal bench. My head was spinning with dizziness. My throat hurt and I was questioning my sanity of why I had left my sofa nest. I idly watched MiniWarrior run around his breath making little clouds in the cool Fall air. I tugged my coat closer to me and resigned myself to an hour of Mom playground duty.

Two little girls came to the playground and MiniWarrior skipped over to chat with them. Such a social bug he is. I heard smatterings of their conversation. They asked MiniWarrior what grade he was in. If he lived around there. Then I saw one girl point to me and ask him if I was his Mom.

"Yes" He said looking over at me. "She has gold hair. Isn't she pretty?"


I'm convinced it's moments just like this that keep us from eating our young.


I could feel it come on yesterday. The scratchy throat, the slight throb in the sinus'...the building cough. I wasn't surprised. Everyone around me has been sick.

So...I headed to the local pharmacy to purchase some ammo against the oncoming storm of sickness.

I'm perusing the sickie aisle. Thera-flu? hmm..no...good stuff but I'm not that sick. Vicks Cough and Cold? Nah...ain't coughin' much...yet.

A helpful lady came over and recommended Air-borne after I discussed my symptoms. "Lots of people are taking this at the first sign of sickness."

Eureka! Just what I needed. Except...there was a cheaper pharmacy version of it called Wal-borne. Hmmm...3 dollars cheaper! I snapped it off the shelf and slid it next to the Hello Kitty I had found in the toy section.

Hey! Stop your snickering!! She's sickie ammo!! Hmmph.

So, I get home and crack open the package of Wal-borne.

They were 10 large pills in a tube. They looked like those huge Vitamin C tablets you can chomp like candy.

I read the back of the box:

Great tasting dietary supplement.
Effervescent technology offers 100% immediate absorption.
Take at the first sign of cold symptom or in crowded places.
Effervescent Health Formula.
Amino Acids!
1000 mg of Vitamin C!
Seven Herbal Extracts!
Great Taste!
Sounds good! I shook one out of the tube and popped it into my mouth.
You know how they say "Whatever you do in life comes back to you?" --as in Karma payback??

The second that tablet hit my mouth, I was instantly transported back to my moment of karmetic (is that a word?) act.
It was the Fall of my 11th year. My friend, Nina and I were sitting beside our friend, Tim, in the front pew of his fathers church.
Times were strict back then. Children were not allowed to sit alone in church without an adult guardian beside them. We were allowed to sit alone because Tim's father was preaching and could keep a Reverend eyeball on us.

Remember Fizzies? Tablets that came in different flavors that you could plunk into a jug of water and create a sort of Kool-aid?

I had two Wild Cherry lifesavers and a Lime flavored Fizzy in my little pink church clutch. When Tim's father began the "boring" sermon...I reached inside my bag and handed Nina a lifesaver, popped the other one in my mouth..and handed Tim the Fizzy.

Seeing us slurping on our candy, he didn't think twice and with a grin of "thanks" he slid that Fizzy into his mouth and chomped down with gusto.

I stared straight ahead at the podium where his father was preaching, with a (much practiced) innocent look on my face while Tim began to make muffled gagging noises and squirm beside me.

Tim's father looked sternly down at his squirming son.

I slid a peripheral look at Tim and could see green foam oozing from the sides of his mouth.
There was an awkward few seconds of silence while the Preacher stared at Tim in puzzlement.
I could feel hysterical laughter build inside me--I bit hard on the inside of my cheeks to keep from blowing my innocent look.
The Preacher speared Tim with a parental look of "you are so going to get it when you're home" lifted his hand and pointed to the back of the Church.
With green foam dripping off his chin, Tim lunged off the pew and ran.

The Preacher looked sternly down at Nina and I. I blinked innocently back up at him. He continued his sermon.

For 29 years that Green Fizzy Karma had laid waiting. Biding its evil time.
As I hunched over my kitchen sink gagging and spewing orange flavored foam...I thought of Tim...and wondered if he was somewhere out there in this crazy Karma revenge world--spontaneously laughing--and wondering why.

P.s. Moral of the story? Put the &%#! tablets in a glass of water!!

The Kindness of Strangers?

I was sniffing around the Hello Kitty Shop on my lunch break yesterday. The clerks there know me as a regular so they were busy pointing out a new shipment of Hello Kitty paraphanelia to add to my collection.
I told them that I was just "looking" today because Thursday was my 40th birthday and I didn't want to buy a Kitty that someone may have already bought for me as a gift.

**Gives the HINT stare out from my blog to those whom would be responsible for Hello Kitty gift givage to me**



So...one of the girl clerks pipes up and says, " Oh! My Mom just turned 50!"

" And she said her 40's were the BEST ever!"

"She was really ugly in her 30's and then when she turned 40 "POOF" she got pretty and cool!"



"Um well I mean look at you!" "Yer already pretty so um...think...um...of how great you'll look in your 40's!"


"Um...well...um...have a great birthday!"

Find a happy place....find a happy place....

Most Memorable Kiss

It was the Summer of my 18th year.

I was living in Urk, Holland. There was a gorgeous blue eyed, black haired, 18 year old boy ( named Riekelt) who had expressed an interest in going out with me.
He was beautiful to look at, but I was in one of those odd periods of time. I had been dating a boy during my Senior year in High School. He was older and had left for college before I graduated.
We still wrote and talked on the phone from time to time, but distance and the inevitable growing up and apart was creeping on our relationship slowly choking the life from it.

It was a warm evening. Riekelt came by and asked me to go for a walk with him. I agreed.
We walked through the village side by side, the last rays of that days sun bathing things around us in sleepy orange. Sometime between walking the cobblestone streets and sitting on the wood of the Urk fishing docks he had taken my hand into his. I sat beside this beautiful boy and watched fishing boats bob in the North Sea spread out before us. I listened to him speak of growing up on this Island and of his dreams for his future. The sun melted into the horizon and we headed back to the house of the people I was staying with.

He walked me to the back door of the house, then paused. I remember the intense blue of his eyes as he leaned down and gently placed his lips on mine. There was a hum like a purr of electricity. He leaned in closer and I stepped forward and into him. He ran the tip of his tongue along mine in a soft caress then stepped back and broke the kiss.

He smiled a man's smile and traced his finger along the frame of my cheek. I stood completely still and watched him walk away until his frame melded in with the shadows of the evening.

Only then did I remember to breathe.

Blackberry Quest

The blackberry quest was a success.

A few battle wounds and plenty of loot.

*pats the belly*

Argh...life be good.

A glimpse of a moment in our quest:

Pirate Mom bending over to wrest a particular clump of plump looking berries from their thorny nest when....

" ARGH! Me booty's been hit!"

" Huh?"

" A blackberry vine just stabbed me in the butt."

" Oh!"

* mini warrior comes to pirate Mom rescue*



" Don't you hurt my Mom! "

" ARGH! "

*Pirate Mom dancing around holding injured booty*

" AHH! The berries just stabbed me!"

*mini warrior hopping around clutching injured leg*

" They're stealing my blood!"

*grins* another perfect memory implanted in mini me's mental albumn

Passing On Of A Tradition

As a child, a Summer tradition was
the picking of ripe, sun-warmed

Hands and mouth stained purple.

Legs scratched raw from the battle
of the Blackberry Vines.

Skipping home with a bucket brimming
with the freshly plucked loot.

This evening I am taking my son on a
Blackberry picking quest.

We shall take our loot home and bake
it up in a Cobbler.

We shall dine on our fruit feast and toast
each other with whip cream spoons and
purple laced grins.

We shall a memory, create.

School Daze

Tomorrow MiniWarrior starts 2nd grade.

His shiny new backpack is filled with fresh school supplies. His "first day of school" clothes are laid out beside his new shoes. We did the "meet the teacher see the new classroom" BBQ last Thursday. His bus schedule has been confirmed...
All preparation has been completed...and I find myself filled with grade school memories.

Kindergarten: The feel of my teachers hand on mine as she pressed my 5 year old hand into white plaster. Playing house in the play kitchen in the "imagination section of the room". Sitting with strange children reciting my ABC's. My mother handing me an umbrella to take with me to school and warning me to "keep its pointed end down when carrying it so I wouldn't poke someones eye out. The feeling of disgust at her admonishment. I was "5". I KNEW how to hold an umbrella. The feeling of embarassment that EVERY day the bus driver would close the door on me-pinning me to the side of the bus-when I attempted to climb up onto the stairs to enter the bus. I was the only child ENTERING the bus. You'd think she would see me?!

First Grade: The teacher drilling us on our ABC's while holding a witch puppet on her hand. The intense boredom...and making up millions of creative excuses to be able to escape and hang out alone in the sick room. The teachers way of controlling us by leaving the room and sitting out in the hall. She would only return once a class envoy was chosen to apologize to her and ask her to return to our room. The question she asked us once, "If you could do anything you wanted what would you do?". Listening to the kids responses of "draw on the walls, eat all the candy they wanted..." while dreaming of running along the trail in the forbidden far track of the school yard that was reserved for 6th graders. Watching the strange look flicker over her face when I shyly spoke of my wish to her. Puzzling as to what that look meant.

Second Grade: Intense dislike of the short squat teacher. Watching her smugly while she slammed a big black paddle onto her desk and screamed at us to try to get us to behave. Sitting inside day after day during recess writing spelling words over and over. Plotting ways to get back at her...
Standing in line for a bathroom break...wrestling with the boys who stole my hair ribbons while waiting in line.
Pee'ing on the TWISTER game because I had to "rrrrrrreally go" but I was winning and refused to quit.

Third Grade: Winning the times table contest. Hounding the teacher day after day so she would hear my times table recitation so I could get my star. The feeling of deflation when the prize was a plastic smiley bag. The satisfied smirks of the other kids that I won a crappy prize. The intense happiness that filled me when my teacher informed me that she was going to send away for an advanced reading/writing course for me that I could work on once my schoolwork was done. Plotting to be finished with ALL school work by recess so the rest of the day was MINE to dream and read and write. The look on my Mother's face when I came home with straight A report cards.

Fourth Grade: The teacher who's mentality matched her name--Ms. Fern. The horrible boredom. Screaming inside myself during Math class. WHY ARE YOU STILL TEACHING US LONG DIVISION??? WE'VE GOT IT ALREADY!! Freaking out when she told us to open our math books to "long division" and (after grabbing the hand of my best friend) running screaming around the room. We made it around 3 times before she snapped out of her shock and grabbed us. Standing outside the Teachers Room in the Gym and listening to my best friend getting swatted for the screaming fest. Feeling angry because I was the one who got in trouble and she was the one being hit. Snarling at my best friend to "STOP CRYING cuz then the TEACHER wins!" when she exited the Teachers room sniffling back tears.

Fifth Grade: Listening to the Teacher read "Where the Red Fern Grows" Sobbing at the death of Dan and Little Anne. Listening to her read us "The Hobbit" and "Trumpet of the Swans". Studying at night with my Mom to remember how to spell government for the next day spelling contest. Actually receiving that word during the contest...and misspelling it. *dammit!* Learning the capitols of the United States. Escaping to the woods outside our class. Hiding from the horrible boredom of school.

Sixth Grade: Smirking at the big brown eyed clog wearing teacher who cried whenever we acted up. Doing everything in my power to make her cry. Inciting the class to rebel--go on strike--refuse her commands--skipping classes. Her bravery at trying to swat me one day (which she was NOT allowed to do to me) over an infraction she thought I had done. My arguing calmly with her telling her, " I didn't do it and she had better not hit me or I'd hit her back". Realizing I was never going to leave that Punishment Room until she hit me with the paddle. Feeling resigned and letting her after repeatedly warning her I would hit her back. Turning and slapping her after she hit me with the paddle. Being dragged to the Principles office to be expelled. Smirking the next day as I sat in class--with my (then guardian) having talked the principle into keeping me in school.

Aah the memories of a "lifetime ago". And now my son begins the filling of his memory book. I wish him happiness and good times with good friends. These are the years that will define him.

The Kindness Of Teenagers

I think, at times, Teenagers get a bad rap.

I think we forget that under all the bravado, hormone craze, frantic fad following and rebellion they are really just kids who are trying hard to grow into adults. That they are trying desperately to find their own place in this world just like we all did in what seems (at times) to be eons ago.

One of weekly things I do with my son, MiniWarrior, is to take him to the Mall. It helps him learn socialization and sensory control. We've been making an outing of it every Saturday for a couple of years now.

Now there are 3 current loves in MiniWarrior's life:

1. Swords
2. Anything gruesome related to Halloween
3. Teenagers

There are 3 stores that MiniWarrior loves in the Mall:

1. Spencers
2. Hot Topic
3. The Sword/Knife shop

I was excited to bring MiniWarrior to the Mall this Saturday because I had seen that Spencers had started to decorate for Halloween. We arrived and MiniWarrior "Ooh'd" and "Aah'd" at the freaky monsters standing in the windows of Spencers and stepped inside the store with a huge grin on his face.

There was a particular gruesome creature on the floor which was just a torso and a head. I knew MiniWarrior would love it as it sort of looks like Smegal on (MiniWarrior's favorite movie--The Hobbit). I pointed it out to MiniWarrior and said, "Me Precious! Me Precious!"

He was standing there giggling when all of a sudden this friggen Smegal creature started crawling across the floor towards him moaning! I jumped back in surprise and looked over at MiniWarrior. His eyes were the size of 50 cent pieces and he scrambled over to me bellowing, " MOM! MOM!"

We heard a muffled chuckle and then a teenage store clerk came from around one of the Halloween displays wielding a remote control. He showed it to MiniWarrior and moved the Smegal creature back and forth a bit. MiniWarrior laughed and chatted with the guy. The kid then walked around and pushed all sorts of buttons on the various Halloween displays grinning as MiniWarrior exclaimed excitedly over everything.

He did the "cool dude" hand slide-fist bump handshake with MiniWarrior as we left Spencers. Grinned and waved and wished us a "Great Day!".

Next it was on to the Toy Shop for the new toy sword of the week. We found an entire Knight set for 7 dollars. Chest plate, Shield and Sword. The teenage store clerk at the Toy Store patiently snipped each plastic band holding the set into the packaging and grinned as she handed MiniWarrior each piece. MiniWarrior left the store whirling and stabbing make believe enemies.

Next it was on to the Sword/Knife Shop. MiniWarrior did battle a bit with the armored Knight that stood guard outside the Sword shop then stepped in to gaze longingly at the REAL swords on display. The young guy working there called MiniWarrior over and admired MiniWarrior's new Knight outfit. Then...he let MiniWarrior hold a REAL sword patterned after the Lord Of The Rings King Sword! The sword was as tall as MiniWarrior. He could barely hold it...honestly I don't know who's smile was bigger, MiniWarrior's, mine or the young store clerks.

A couple of teenagers were perusing the store and walked over to chat with MiniWarrior a while he held the sword. They admonished him about trying to hold it by the blade and helped him get a better grip on the handle.

There was happy laughter behind us as we exited the store and MiniWarrior turned to me saying, "MOM! How AWESOME of a day am I having?!"

Off to Hot Topic Store and more perusing. Teenagers were milling around looking surly--all wild hair colored and dressed in tough looking black clothes adorned with silver zippers and dangles.

MiniWarrior grinned and talked to each one. He admired the young store clerks red colored hair. He asked her if she was a "rock star". She laughed and said, "she wished". She listened as he expressed his wish to have colored hair then gently pointed out that "halloween" was the best time for boys to have "colored hair".

He stopped and admired another teens eyebrow piercings. She leaned down so he could get a closer look and let him "touch" one. He beamed and declared her "cool". She smiled a shy smile and said, "your pretty cool yourself." MiniWarrior nodded and moved on to the next Teen. A few more "hand slide-bump knuckle" handshakes later and we were off. I turned my head as we walked out of the store and every teen there had a smile on their faces as they watched MiniWarrior strut out in his full Knight regalia.

Filtered Innocence

Since the death of his Grandfather, my son has been very curious about God and Heaven. The following is a glimpse of a conversation I recently had with my son.

"Mom, where does Jesus live?"

"In a place called Heaven"

"Where is Heaven?"

"Heaven is all around us, you just can't see it."

"Like an invisible place?"



"So Grandpa is staying at Jesus's house?"


"Do other people stay at Jesus' house?"

"Yes, all the good people live there"

"Wow. Jesus must have a BIG house!"

"LOL, yeah...he does. It's magical. It stretches to make room for all the good people who want to live there."

**serious little brown eyes looked up at me**

"Only good people?"


"No bad people?"

"Nope. They aren't allowed to live there."

"You mean I can talk to all the strangers there?"

"Yes son, you can talk to everyone there."


"Wow. That's cool, Mom."


Look At All The Friends!

Those of you that have followed my Blog know that my 7 year old son (MiniWarrior) is Autistic.

When you first meet him you wouldn't guess that he was anything other then a very sweet, friendly, talk-ative little boy. He's bright, he's curious and he will pepper any unsuspecting victim with as many questions as he can possibly fit in between the time it takes you to realize the questions "aren't going to end" and the 'survival flight syndrome' kicks in.

You would not guess the turmoil that he lives with every day inside his head. Every sound, every smell, every tiny detail around him, his brain picks up and stores. There are no filters. That's the hard part. No filters. It's also the wonderful part. No filters. He sees everything in absolute clarity. He embraces every person he meets with the warmth us "filtered" people reserve for family and close friends.

When he was 4, I took him to a Park to go swimming and play in the sand for a bit. It was a scorching hot, peel the flesh from your bones day. The parking lot was crowded with cars. By the time we shuffled our way to the park entrance I was sweating, irritated and questioning the sanity of spending the day par-broiling pressed in between the mass of strangers. However, MiniWarrior was skipping along beside me, excited about spending the day at the lake, so I paid our entrance fee and resigned myself to staking out a spot among the masses and sweating through the mandatory beach blanket guard detail.

We jostled our way through the park entrance line and paused at the creek bridge to survey the terrain for our family blanket nesting spot. It was going to be a challenge. Every square foot of grass and sand was covered with the white flesh of humanity.

"God, look at all the people!" I groaned to myself.

MiniWarrior hopped up and down beside me tugging on my arm.

"Mom! Mom!"

I blinked sweat from my eyes and looked down at him wiggling happily beside me.


"Look at all the friends!" He exclaimed in happy awe.

I paused and looked into his eyes glowing with happiness and felt something old and rusty shift inside me.

What a treasure he is. Every day of the 7 years I have spent with this child has opened my filtered world to the stark beauty surrounding us.

Experts call Autism a handicap. Sometimes I wonder who the "handicapped" people really are.

Workin' It For The Dew

I rolled over this morning and opened my eyes to little brown eyes staring back at me intently.

"Good morning, Mom"

*big 7 year old grin*

"Mornin', Son"

*quirk of the Mom eyebrow*

"I love you, Mom"

*big 7 year old grin spreading wider exposing 6 year old molars*

"I love you too, Son"

*Mom eyes narrowing suspiciously*

"You're the best Mom"

*little body snuggling closer and gripping me in a hug*

"Thank you. You're my favorite Son"

*enjoys the snuggles while Mom alarms are beeping "beep! beep!--manipulation alert!"*

"Mommmm...I'm your ONLY Son, silly!"

"Uh huh. But yer still my favorite."

*Mom lips curling into a loving smirky smile*

*little body wiggles closer*

"Say, Mom..."

*little hand petting my arm*


*Re-quirk of the Mom eyebrow*

"I noticed there was a Mountain Dew in the fridge..."

*rapid batting of big chocolate brown eyes, wider grin...pet pet of the Mom arm*

"You aren't having Mountain Dew for breakfast."

"Ahhhh MAN!!!"

*STOMP STOMP of angry 7 year old leaving my room*

hehehehe...behold the power of the Mom.

Lost And Found

Lost and Found
13 years ago I found my birth Mother. She's been over at my house this weekend working and spending time with me and her grandson. I never grow tired of watching her. Listening to her. Enjoying having her in my life.
When you grow up without blood relatives, you are fascinated when you come in contact with people who share your DNA. I remember the first thing I thought when I saw my (birth) Mother for the first time.
She has my eyes.
My adopted mother had told me that my birth mother had blue eyes. I grew up staring into my eyes in the mirror's reflection thinking I was looking at my father's eyes. Chocolate brown. I wished so often they were blue.
13 years ago she stepped off a plane, walked up an airport ramp and into my life. A tiny framed woman with soft blond hair and chocolate brown eyes.
With the exception of my son, I have not loved anyone as deeply as I do her. This delicate person who gave me life.
They say the eyes are the window of the soul. I agree. For if you look in mine you'll see the reflection of my mother, in the window of my soul.

When We Were Short And Stupid: A Blogger's Collection Of Childish Tales

When We Were Short and Stupid: A Blogger's Collection of Childish Tales

The year was 1971. It was the Summer of my 6th year. My sister (who is 2 years older then me) and I had been dropped off to be babysat for the weekend by some old friends of our Mother.
To grant privacy to these people I shall from here on refer to them as Mr and Mrs Smith.
Mr. Smith was a tall, slender, silver haired man with piercing blue eyes. His hobbies were carving (disturbing) wall hangings of flying birds and Evergreen trees out of wood, reading the newspaper and his religion of choice, Christianity.
Mrs. Smith was a quiet woman. She garbed herself in nondescript brown dresses that she topped with an equally nondescript brown knit shawl. She wore her grey streaked hair in a bun and had some kind of head shaking problem. Like Katheryn Hepburn had. I remember staring in morbid fascination at the bun on top of her head, watching it wobble back and forth with each shake of her head. The only time I had ever seen her head stop shaking was the day she visited our home and was startled by the popping sound of a dying light-bulb from the hanging lamp above her perch on our sofa. That was good for 8 seconds of non-head shaking time. I know. I counted the seconds in my head when I saw her head go still. One one thousand...two one thousand...three one thousand...four one thousand (It's a miracle! She's been cured by the light bulb explosion!)...five one thousand...six one thousand...seven one thousand (look at that! Her heads completely still!)...eight one thousand...nine..(oops! Nope. Houston, we have head wobble).
Mr. and Mrs. Smith were a deeply religious couple. And very poor as they lived by the motto "God will provide" instead of the sin of a regular paycheck. They owned one tiny black and white television set which was turned on only for the local news so Mr. Smith could see how the world was going to hell and give him fodder for his weekly Bible Study sermon notes. The only reading materiel was religious in nature and the local newspaper. I tried to sneak the comic page out of his paper one day out of desperation for some kind of entertainment, and was lectured for a full hour on the evils of "worldly" entertainment created to corrupt my young mind.
The only snacks my sister and I were allowed were apples plucked from Mr. and Mrs. Smiths apple trees. Even that was strictly monitored. One apple between meals. The Devil might lead us into temptation if we consumed more than one. Devil temptation sounded like something I might enjoy so I snarfed down three of those forbidden apples while hunkered down behind Mr. Smiths wood shop.
It was Sunday and the last day of my sister's and my stay at the Smiths house. We were currently holed up in Mr. Smiths study perched on a hard leather love seat that was pressed in between the bookshelves. There were no toys, no books other for us to read other then "The Origins of God". We had been told to sit quietly as it was "God's Day" and reflect on His wonderfulness.
While sitting there quietly "reflecting" I suddenly became aware of a pressing consequence from my "dare the Devil to tempt me" multiple apple consumption. I crept quietly out of the study and slunk undetected into the bathroom and happily laid my "burden" to rest in a single porcelaine deposit.
All was going well until I tried to flush my deposited burden away. Three flushes later I stood staring down at the damning evidence of my temporary lapse of multi apple consumption temptation. It lay there bobbing, mocking me. I started to sweat. What was I going to do? I couldn't just leave it laying there!
I looked around the tiny bathroom frantically trying to find some solution. My eyes lit upon the tiny window above the bathtub. Eureka! Swathing my hand in Charmin, I reached in and snatched my sin evidence out of the bowl. Scampering over I reached up with my free hand to open the window and fling the monstrosity outside only the window wouldn't budge. It was frozen shut from years of paint layers. Now what?!
I did the only thing a desperate 6 year old could do when faced with this crisis. I buried it in the bathroom waste basket.
Multiple hand washings later, I slunk out of the bathroom and back into the Study.
"What took you so long?" My sister asked shooting me a puzzled look.
I answered her with a shrug and climbed back up beside her to resume my "religious reflection" on the sofa.
10 minutes later, I was pulled from my reflections by the opening of the Study door. Mr. Smith walked in, walked directly over to me and poked out his hand.
"Is this yours?!" He bellowed.
I looked down into his out thrust hand and there clutched in his gnarled age spotted hand was my previously hidden deposit.
The horror of the discovery has wiped all memory of what happened after that from my memory.


When I Was Short

There was an old man who lived in our motel in room #6. He walked with a sideways slouch, one arm clenched in a permanent fist that swung useless by his side and a sturdy wooden cane clutched in his good hand that helped his bad leg to keep tempo with his good leg. My Mom explained to me that he had suffered from a stroke and that is why his body didn’t work right. He had silver hair that he kept neatly trimmed and greased back with VO5 styling gel, and he smelled like the pink colored wintergreen candies that he kept by his bed in a clear plastic ten pound bag. I called him Grandpa Terrio.
Everyday after kindergarten, Grandpa Terrio would sit in our kitchen and stamp his cane impatiently while I performed my daily chore of putting away the clean dishes that had dried in the counter dish rack. Once done, he and I would head off to the local restaurant called “Joyce’s Cafe”. There he would order a butterhorn with coffee and french fries and a coke for me. We would sit at the end of the counter by the till and Grandpa Terrio would converse with the “regulars” who sat so often at the counter that they seemed a permanent fixture of the Cafe. I would munch happily on my french fries, dipping them delicately into the ketchup that Grandpa Terrio had squirted onto my plate and watch the menagerie of faces as they played out a symphony of slurping coffee, sucking down cigarettes and jawing about local gossip and little injustices that they faced in their small worlds.
One day a man came in with a big camera. It looked like the kind of camera you saw reporters on T.V. scurrying around with snapping pictures and blinding their hapless victims into blank eyed surrender with the huge cylinder flash case that housed a 3 inch flashbulb.
I have a dim memory of the camera man’s face. He was young with dark hair that was slicked down and flipped to one side. I vividly remember him staring at me from the other end of the counter and gently teasing me trying to get me to look up and into the direction of his camera. The “regulars” at the counter added their gentle ribbing along with the camera man. I was painfully shy and despised their attention but managed to break out of my shell for a moment to grin at their good natured antics. The camera flashed a few times and the camera man murmured his approval. The “regulars” nodded their heads in similar approval than returned to their consumption of coffee, cigarettes and gossip, and happily, I to my french fries and coke.
Grandpa Terrio had a hobby of collecting pebble size rocks and polishing them. He and I would go for walks always looking downward for a pretty new stone to add to his collection. I would walk along side him holding his twisted lame hand and pick up any pebble that Grandpa Terrio would jab at in approval with his cane. He made cute little wooden rocking chairs and cemented the polished stones to the back and sides. The rocking chair had dowels on the sides that held spools of thread and and a drawer under the seat to hold sewing gadgets. The seat of the rocking chair was stuffed so one could use it as a pin cushion. I still use one of his rocking chair creations to this day..
Rainy days we spent together in my parent’s kitchen piecing together various puzzles. We never worked on children’s puzzles. Only the 5,000 piece ones that were made for adults to labor over. He taught me how to find all the straight edged pieces first to make the outline and then how to separate the pieces by color. I was proud that he respected me enough to include me in something labeled “adult” when I was only 5.
Sometimes, when the season was right Grandpa Terrio and I would go blackberry picking. Grandpa Terrio seemed to pride himself in knowing all the keen places where only the ripest berries grew. Only the biggest and juiciest would do. That pride was one day his downfall.
It was a beautiful summer day when Grandpa Terrio and I headed out to pick some Blackberries. He knew about a patch of particularly juicy berries about a mile down Highway 99 that ran along side my parent’s motel. We armed ourselves with buckets and headed down the Highway. Grandpa Terrio was right. The berry patch was full of the ebony colored berries and we had a grand time of filling our buckets and ourselves with their plumb juiciness. It was getting late and our buckets were brimming over with our berry booty, when Grandpa Terrio spied the “Mother lode”.
The berry patch we had been plucking our delicious loot from lay on top of a grassy ravine. It sprawled all the way down the ravine, but the only access was on top of the ravine. Grandpa Terrio had picked his way to the edge of the ravine and had spied the “Mother lode” hanging on a vine just over the edge. Using his cane he snared the “golden” vine and gently pulled it towards him. Just when the prize was almost in his grasp the allusive vine slipped off of the cane.
I watched in horror as Grandpa Terrio lost his footing and teetered over the edge of the ravine. I grabbed hold of his shirt and tugged him backwards toward me. All ready off balance his feet flew out from beneath him and he landed with a crash, flat on his back beside me!
I was glad that he hadn’t fallen down the ravine, but I was scared because he had hit his head pretty hard when he fell backwards. I sank to my knees beside him and patted him on his chest staring earnestly into his face to see if he was alright. He seemed a little stunned but reassurred me that he was o.k. He said that he needed my help to stand up because of his bad arm and leg. I tugged with all my 5 year old strength on his frail, age spotted hand, but I was too small and weak to pull him up. I tried pushing down on the toe of his shoes but that didn’t work either. My heart was pounding frantically and I felt like crying when I saw a trickle of blood run down the side of his head and onto one of his ears.
Grandpa Terrio looked me in the eye and told me quietly that I needed to run home and get help. I nodded my head. I would do it. He didn’t ask me if he thought I could do it. I saw the calm assurance in his eyes that he knew I could. Even in need he never patronized me. He respected me. I would rather have died than let him down.
I ran as fast as I could down the side street that the berry patch grew along than stopped when I came to Highway 99. There were 4 lanes. 2 going northbound and 2 going southbound. Cars whipped by me traveling in both directions. I remembered my Mom teaching me how to cross. She had taken me by the hand and showed me how to look both ways up and down the highway before crossing. She had practised with me crossing back and forth and then had stood on one side while she watched me cross on my own.
She wasn’t there to watch me this time. It was up to me. Grandpa Terrio counted on me. I looked left than right. Too many cars. I looked left than right again, still too many cars. My heart was racing and I could hear my ragged breathing mixed in with the sound of the cars zooming by me. Left, than right. Too many cars! I would never be able to cross! Suddenly a Semi-truck pulled up along side me. The driver looked down at me and then forward at the speeding traffic.
“When I tell you to, you run as fast as you can and cross the road, ya hear?” He bellowed down at me.
I nodded my head and waited for my cue.
“Run!” He yelled.
I took off running the sound of my sneakers slapping the pavement in sync with the frantic pounding beat of my heart. I flew across Highway 99 than sped onward towards home. The run to my home was uphill. My parents motel was named after that hill. “Hilltop Motel”. I kept my eye on the top of the hill knowing once I reached it I would be home. I reached the top in record time. As I rounded the corner of our driveway I saw my Mom standing by a lady who was climbing into a car. They both froze when they saw me running towards them. I gasped out the Grandpa Terrio had fallen in the blackberry bushes. I told them where and they took off in the lady’s car. I stood there gasping for air watching the car disappear down the road.
I found out later that day that the lady who drove my Mom to where Grandpa Terrio had fallen was Grandpa Terrio’s daughter. She visited him once a month. Mom said it was so she could borrow money when Grandpa Terrio got his Social Security check. I don’t know if that’s true but if so, I guess we were lucky that day that it was the first of the month.
Grandpa Terrio was fine. He had a big bump on the back of his head and a small gash by his ear. I went to see him in his room that evening. He was standing in his kitchen holding a wet towel to the bump on his head. He seemed embarrassed to see me. I think it hurt him to let me see him when he was weak. He mumbled that he was alright and that I should go on home. I was a little hurt that he wanted me to leave, but I understood his need to save face. I turned around and left giving him the respect that he had so often given to me.
One day, not long after, when I was standing on top of the stool in the kitchen putting the clean dishes away, my Mom walked into the kitchen and told me quietly that Grandpa Terrio had died. I stood frozen with a plate in one hand and and towel in the other. I watched my Mom turn and walk into the living room and then out the front door. I calmly opened the kitchen cupboard and put the plate inside. Numbly I finished putting the rest of the dishes away, all the while I kept wondering why I wasn’t crying. I blinked my eyes in disbelief, but they felt oddly dry and scratchy.
The next day my family went to the funeral home to “view the body”. My brothers and sister were freaked out at the sight of Grandpa Terrio in the casket. My sister shoved me forward and pressed me against the casket. My brothers teased me and said that Grandpa Terrio was going to jump out of the casket at me. My sister kept trying to get me to poke the body. My oldest brother got brave enough to pick up the maroon tie that Grandpa Terrio was wearing.
I didn’t touch him. I didn’t say a word. I thought he looked nice in his grey suit white shirt and maroon tie. His hair was trimmed and combed back nicely as I knew he would have liked it. The funeral person had placed Grandpa Terrio’s lame hand to rest across his stomach. It made him look dignified. I stared at that hand remembering it as the one I had held so many times on our walks. I desperately wanted to reach out and touch it one more time, but I was afraid that my brothers and sister would poke fun at me.
Later we attended Grandpa Terrios funeral in a little wooden chapel. My Mom kept the booklet that we received at the front door. I guess it was a bulletin like the one you got at church that told you what was going to happen during the service. I don’t remember the service, only that I sat on a wooden pew and stared at my shoes. I watched as I swung first my right leg and then my left. I remember that I didn’t cry. Years later my Mom asked me if I remembered Grandpa Terrio. She said she remembered that I had cried for a week solid after the funeral. To this day I don’t remember shedding one tear.

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57 days until the big 40 occurs.
It seems strange to see that number next to my name. I don't feel 40?
Does one ever "feel" their age?
I really don't mind turning 40. It's just a number, really. However I'm finding that it's not how I feel inside that's bothering me. It's the actual number. 40.
With 40 comes the realization that you can actually look into your future and see how things are going to end up.
After 40 years of living with yourself you become familiar with your own pattern of doing things. How you analyze decisions. If you make good decisions or bad ones. Your habits, weaknesses, strengths.
Its haunting to suddenly reach an age where you can actually see (barring unforeseen upsets) where you are going to end up when you get old. Where you will be when you retire from the regular work life.
When I was younger, the future always seemed so mysterious. So open for exciting things. Wonderful things. Now the future is not so mysterious anymore. With that knowledge the innocence of "maybe someday I will do this or that or be this person or that person" (insert your personal title of wishes) gets tainted.
One can still make changes in their life. You can still redirect the path you are currently taking and end up in places you didn't expect. New places. New and exciting things can still occur. I think this is where "mid-life"crisis steps in. People realizing that they suddenly can see where they are going to end up, panic and seemingly make crazy impulsive decisions to drastically alter the present course of their lives.
Scary that I now understand that.
I've peered into my future. If I stay on present course, I will be alone living in a modest ranch house with my adult autistic son for company. I'll retire from a job that was nice and enabled me to buy the modest ranch house for my son and I to live in. I'll help my son with yard work when my knees aren't complaining too loudly. Maybe I'll have that little garden I've always dreamed about. I'll continue to putter away on my "cute" writings. Filling folders with amusing tidbits of my zany insights on things.
Time for a fork in that dismal path.

Life's Film

Life's Film
I have found that when witnessing the end of another person's life all the snapshots that your mind has created, during the course of your own life, seem to fuse together to create a movie. It's like watching a biography in the dim light of Social Studies Class. Images of your past flicker through your mind like the click click of the film strip being fed through a movie projector.
I see myself at 6 years old running behind my brother and sister, dime clutched in my hand, summer sun beating down on me as I chased down the ice cream man.
The dime flying out of my hand to land in the tall grass. Frantically searching through the grass on my hands and knees for the lost coin.
Running back to my Mom to get another dime before the ice cream man drove away. Her refusal to give me another dime to teach me responsibility of hanging on to money given to me.
Standing beside my sister and crying, watching her open her Popsicle. Seeing the flicker of emotion in her eyes as she looked over at me then broke the Popsicle and gave me half.
The cold sweet taste of the banana flavor touching my tongue mixed with the feeling of my big sister's love for me.
Tiny moments in time that make up the story of who we were and how we became who we are today.


Thunderstorm Concerto

Thunderstorm Concerto
I sat on my porch last night and watched the clouds gather themselves for a thunderstorm concerto.
A magnificent performance: Swirling plumes in hues of orange, black, white and grey. Spears of lightening streaking through the psychedelic chromaticity followed by the crescendoing growl of thunder drew "Oohs" and "Ahhs from the neighborhood crowd.
I tipped my wine cooler to the Conductor in a respectful salute.


April 05
I am an oxymoron.
I'm lazy yet hyper. Emotional but logical. Intelligent yet dumb (acting that is ) Quick tempered but long suffering. Long winded and succinct.
I am both sides of the insanity coin.
If you think you have me pegged, I'll change my stripes just to throw a wrench in your peg board. I'll wear black if you know I love pink. Argue vehemently against you then suddenly agree with you--mid rant. I am brutally honest yet will lie like a defense lawyer to get out of trouble.
Nothing irks me more then to hold the mundane title of "predictable".
Recently I had an intense conversation with someone whom I hold very dear. This person said to me, " You will do this (predicting my future action) because everyone I have known has done this."
To this I smile and say, " You have not known me."


"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
~Harvey Fierstein

Spring Has Sproing!

April 03
Spring has sproing!
I went to a Casino last night with my boyfriend and a pack of friends. We stood in line to the Buffet. Wow...long line. We spent some time hanging over the wall that surrounded the buffet and yacked at some friends of ours who were sitting at a table eating already.
I went and asked the Cashier if we couldn't just pay and sit with our friends. The male cashier said yes, the girl cashier said NO. *grumble* Back to the line I trudged. We got impatient ( imagine that ) and went to go eat at the nicer restaurant in the Casino. No reservation, 2 hour wait...back we trudged to the Buffet line.
We were grumbling and complaining about leaving the line and pointing out the people who we had been originally standing behind were now at the front of the line...when the couple who stood in front of us turned and made some comment about being patient. Grrrr...
I quirked an eyebrow at the woman and was busy biting back a sarcastic comment rolling around inside me, just begging to come out. Her husband started talking to my boyfriend and explained how they won this trip to the Casino from a contest he had answered on a local radio station. It was a ticket for 4 people to attend the concert and eat at the buffet. I was still feeling sarcastic when I asked what concert. She mentioned the name of the singer (some pucket dude. I have no idea who that is ) I smiled and said I had no clue who that was when she smiled knowingly and said, " Oh yes, you are much too young to remember know who he is". I felt an instant love for this woman. Anyone who can smirk at me and refer to me as " too young " is my new best friend!
Specifically because my boyfriend has taken to calling me "Soon". When I asked what "Soon" meant? He smirked evilly and said, " SOON to be 40!"
The debate as to if he will live to his 48th birthday is still going on between the voices in my head...
The couple ended up being very sweet people. They offered to pay for our dinner on their contest coupon as it was for 4 people and they came alone. The lady said, " See? It pays to talk to strangers!" All's I could think of was this past months lecture to my 7 yr old son about NOT talking to strangers. Ah, the sweet smell of irony...or is that the cookie dough pie on the buffet table? *sniff sniff* Dang, I smell chocolate...GET THIS LINE MOVING!!!

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March 30
Let's face it, decisions are a gamble. No matter how much data or facts you agonize over before you make a decision, the fact is you never can really know how a decision you've made is going to end up.
Acting on a decision sets off life's domino set. One move you make causes another domino to fall which falls onto another domino which falls...
Depending on how well those domino's are set up, you can either end up with a jumbled mess at the end or a beautifully sculpted design.
A little more then ten years ago I began dating a man who was busy raising his little sister through the terrible teens. *click* first domino is set into play.
We moved in together and worked hard at creating a family atmosphere for her so she could have some sort of idea what a "normal" family setting was like. *click of another domino piece*
A few years later she got pregnant. Still a young teen, she wasn't ready to raise a baby. We made the decision to adopt the baby.*click*
I remember wandering the baby aisles of Fred Meyers alone. Staring at all the newborn stuff and being confused as to what I needed to buy. Feeling terribly alone thinking...this is it. I should be excited right now. Tomorrow I am going to be a Mommy. I was excited, but I don't think I've ever felt more alone. I knew I would never get to experience the laughter and joy of my friends and family members that follows your words of, " hey guess what? I'm pregnant." I would never carry a baby, feel it grow inside me, watch it grow up and see my features on his or her face. *click*
My sons birth mom was living in Oklahoma at the time she gave birth. I was on the phone with her while she was in labor and then when she was holding the baby boy. Many phone calls later and frantic scraping of money to fly her and the baby to us the next day...she stepped off the plane and layed the baby boy in my arms. God, I've never witnessed such an act of bravery as that. And I'll never forget the feeling of humbleness of being given someones child to raise as my own. *click*
We scraped together all our financial resources to cover the adoption. Our lawyer said it would be beneficial to us if we were married to help us be accepted by the adoption judge as future parents to the baby boy. We paid 50 dollars and stood before a Judge and said our wedding vows. I don't remember what he said, I was distracted by his mad scientist eyebrows. Jesus...they were the biggest, wildest eyebrows I have ever seen! We went home and ate a piece of cake I had baked. Then my new husband packed his work bag and headed to work to cover the graveyard shift at his job. I spent my wedding night laying on a mattress on the floor of my new baby's room and listened to him breath chanting over and over in my head...omg I'm a Mom...I'm a Mom...I'm a Mom.*click*
In August we stood before a judge and listened to him tell my husband and I that we were now and forever the parents of Dakota. I slid my hand into my husbands as he stood silently beside me. His hand lay limp in mine...but I held on because I figured we just became parents and that meant we were a family now and I figured we should at least be holding hands at that momentous moment. *click*
Fast forward through the first couple of years of working full time and raising a baby together. Good times blended with frustrating times. Normal times. Our son turned 2. He began screaming whenever I took him in public places. Horrible screams. I knew something was wrong. Much more then just the "terrible two's." I started asking for help. No one listened. I was just a new mom, he was just going through toddler years. My husband and I became robotic roommates to each other. We no longer even attempted to fake intimacy. I became more and more isolated. *click*
We bought a house. Maybe now we would become a family. It became a larger place to hide. He on one side of the house and I on another...and our child wandering alone in between...lost in his own private world that I would eventually find out was Autism. *click*
I got a gut feeling one day that I was about to lose my father. I flew down to Mexico where he and my mom had retired to. I walked into their house and it suddenly dawned on me that I was living their life. All my life they had separate bedrooms, lived separate lives from each other while living in the same house. They raised 4 adopted children...It was a slam to my soul. To see I had become them. These horribly unhappy people. 3 months later my Dad suddenly died. I spent the next year spiralling into a depression that I was terrified I'd never be able to crawl out of. *click*
Christmas Eve, shortly before my son would turn 4...I suddenly woke up from my depressed fog, looked around me and realized how bad things had become. The house was dark, there was no christmas tree, no presents. Tomorrow was Christmas and I hadn't gotten my son anything. Who was this person I had become? Where was the girl who laughed and filled the house with zany decorations. Who filled its walls with the scent of freshly baked goodies and the sounds of christmas music? I asked my husband to go get a tree. He found a charley brown looking one that had been left at the christmas tree lot. We threw decorations on it and went out and put some presents under the tree. The next morning we went through the motions of christmas for our son, but I was dead inside. I had absolutely no feelings. I was moving like a robot. I knew it was the end. That things had to change. *click*
We agreed to call it quits. I found an apartment to move into asI didn't want my son's home completely uprooted. I knew I could make a home for him anywhere I lived and it was best to leave the completed house with my husband so he and my son could have some normal home life when they were together. We settled into a routine of becoming two separate families. It wasn't too hard as we had spent years separate...we just now had separate dwelling places. I began to date. He began to date...laughter started entering our lives again. We all began to crawl out of the dead place and live. *click*
Did I make all the right decisions? I don't know. Only when the domino's stop falling will I be able to look back and see what pattern they made. I do know that the decision to adopt my son was right. I know that before he came into my life I didn't have any concept what "I love you" really meant. I cannot imagine my life without him in it. As for the other decisions...I really don't know. Last night I sat in my living room and stared at the walls around me. My son was at his Dad's...I was alone. Last night the aloneness was very loud. It bounced around me mocking me...telling me somewhere along the way I had not made very good decisions. I'm so damned tired of feeling alone. *click*

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The Interrogator

March 26
The Interrogator
"Mom, can I have some yogurt?"
"Sure, go pick one out."
"How many do you have?"
" I don't know, go look."
" How come you only have three left?"
"Because you ate the rest"
"How many did I eat?"
"I don't know, how many did you eat?"
"Hmm. I ate blueberry, strawberry, lemon...what flavor did I eat yesterday?"
"I don't know. What flavor did you eat?"
"I don't remember. I think strawberry. How come you don't have anymore strawberry?"
"I don't know"
"Can we buy more strawberry?"
(*sigh*...rub rub of the little vein throbbing on my left temple)
"We'll get some more today."
"OK." (pause)
(wait for it...wait for it...*rub rub of the vein*)
"When can we go get some?"
"Later today."
"Morning or Afternoon?"
"How many are we getting?"
(mental note: grinding teeth wears down tooth enamel)
"I don't know...we'll just go buy some."
"What flavors are we getting?"
(rub...rub...rub of the throbbing temple vein)
"I don't know. Whichever ones you like."
"I like strawberry. Do you like strawberry?"
"How come?
Is it your favorite?"
"Do you like Vanilla?"
"But I thought you liked Strawberry?"
"I like them both."
"Which do you like better? Strawberry or Vanilla?"
"Not Vanilla?"
(*sighs* and ponders previous conversation with friend about her threat of selling her kids to gypsies)
"I like Strawberry"
"But you said you liked Vanilla?"
(How does one reach a Gypsie? 1-800-Gypsie? )
"I like them BOTH!"
"Why are you yelling at me, Mom?"
"I'm not yelling son."
"Yes you are and your face looks funny."
"Mom's just tired of questions, son."
(blessed silence)
"Are you done being tired of questions yet?"
"How come?"
Anyone know where I can find a Gypsie?


Through The Eyes Of Children

March 25
Through the eyes of children
We ( boyfriend and I ) went on a shopping excursion today in downtown Portland. We parked in a parking building as the streets were packed with working people and fellow shoppers. It was a busy lot and we ended up parking on the 6th floor.
My knee was acting up so we avoided the stairs and I gimped over to the elevator. Several minutes later the elevator arrived and we packed into the closet sized space along side two other couples and a father with four little girls.
As the doors closed and the "closet with gears" began lowering us towards ground level, I mentally chanted my elevator prayer of " please, God, don't let this thing fail while I'm pressed in with strangers."
Bump...the elevator ground to a halt 1 floor down. The four little girls squealed excitedly at the stop and go movement of our ride peering intently out at the city below.
All elevator occupants eyes slid to the doors as they opened to see who else would be joining our closet commune. No one there. A shallow collective sigh of relief drifted around us as we once again began our journey downward to the street.
Floor 4. Bump (groan) Little girls giggling madly, fellow occupants now sighing with slight rolling of the eyes as the doors open and once again no one is there. I shifted my weight off my aching knee and slid a look at the giggling multi-button pushing culprits. One of the culprits met my look and flashed me a grin, chocolate brown eyes dancing with childish glee as the doors closed and we moved doward again. I felt my lips curling upwards in response to her spontanious joy.
Floor 3. Bump...wild little girl giggles intermixed with irritated adult sighs. All eyes watched as the doors swung open to reveal what we already knew...no further occupants would be joining us.
Two floor delays later I was grinning when our elevator finally came to a halt at our ground floor destination and we all piled out. I reached over and laced my fingers with my boyfriends hand.
"Those little girls pushed all those buttons." He said shooting me an amused look.
Spying my grin he shook his head and laughed. "I knew you were so identifying with them."
I turned to watch people load onto the elevator we had just exited. I thought of the finger I had slid along the numbers of the elevator panel as we piled out the door and laughed.
He knew me well.

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A HaphazardKat Morning

March 24
A HaphazardKat morning
Nothing like waking up to the puff of your 7yr old child's breath on your cheek. Grubby finger poking you checking for signs of Mom life...peering intently, waiting.
*puff...puff...POKE...puff... puff*
I pry open one eye and see the blurry outline of another eyeball staring back at me.
"Mom? Are you done sleeping yet? I'm hungry"
"Mom? I'm hungry. Mom? I'm hungry. Mom?"
The sound of retreating feet and blessed silence reigns. Drifting back to sleep.
(God I love the weekend)
*puff...puff...POKE...puff puff*
"Can you open my yogurt?"
(God help me...it's the weekend)

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Don't Call Him, God

April 13
Don't Call Him, God
I got my windshield fixed on my car the other day (procrastination RULES!)
A man came to my apartment to install the new windshield (gotta love home service )...so my son got to watch it being installed.
He is such a curious bug, he thoroughly enjoyed watching the "dude" fix Mom's car. Only thing is, he is now very protective and possessive over the new windshield!!
I picked him up from daycare Monday afternoon and it was raining (again!). Dakota shook his little fist at the raindrops splatting down on the new windshield snarling, "BAD RAIN! Don't you rain on our windshield!"
I grinned at my fierce windshield protector and thought I'd have a little fun.
Dakota? Do you know what thunder comes from?
It's God spanking the clouds for raining on us!
(big chocolate eyes looked at me in awe)
Who's God?
(well crap! I've obviously neglected a section of his education!)
Er...well, some people believe that God is a giant person who lives in a place called heaven.
Is he like superman?
Yes, only larger and more powerful.
Is he like the Hulk?
Bigger...only not green.
I don't think you should call him, God.
Whys that?
Cuz that's a BAD word!